I'm a firm believer in sincere apologies. Apologize only for what you are truly sorry for. I feel people have gotten to the point of using apologies to hurry up and end a discussion, rather than express their genuine regret for something they did.
My apologies are far and few between. I'm not "sorry you got hurt", "sorry if I did anything", "sorry things didn't work out".....and so on. I'm only sorry you got hurt if I'm the one who caused the hurt (I feel bad with you and can sympathize, but I'm not sorry). I CAN'T be sorry "if" I did anything, if I'm obviously not sure what I did. And for the most part, I believe things always work out for the best, even if you didn't get what you wanted. If you have no control over a situation, why are you apologizing? According to the dictionary, I'm wrong in saying those things. I just looked it up, cause I was curious.
So...until I read that, I felt apologies for something that you have no regret for were considered insincere and meaningless. Apparently dictionary.com feels differently.
But I'm going to make my original point, anyway...cause I'm pretty stubborn like that. :) You won't ever hear me telling you that I'm sorry things aren't going your way. I reserve my apologies for the moments when I feel guilty inside and feel the need to repent with utmost sincerity. If I throw my apologies around at every bad thing that happens in life to you, how are you going to know when I'm truly sorry, or when it's just an automatic conversation piece?
My apologies are far and few between. I'm not "sorry you got hurt", "sorry if I did anything", "sorry things didn't work out".....and so on. I'm only sorry you got hurt if I'm the one who caused the hurt (I feel bad with you and can sympathize, but I'm not sorry). I CAN'T be sorry "if" I did anything, if I'm obviously not sure what I did. And for the most part, I believe things always work out for the best, even if you didn't get what you wanted. If you have no control over a situation, why are you apologizing? According to the dictionary, I'm wrong in saying those things. I just looked it up, cause I was curious.
sor·ry–
adjective,-ri·er, -ri·est.
- feeling regret, compunction, sympathy, pity, etc.: to be sorry to leave one's friends; to be sorry for a remark; to be sorry for someone in trouble.
- regrettable or deplorable; unfortunate; tragic: a sorry situation; to come to a sorry end.
- sorrowful, grieved, or sad: Was she sorry when her brother died?
- associated with sorrow; suggestive of grief or suffering; melancholy; dismal.
- wretched, poor, useless, or pitiful: a sorry horse.
But I'm going to make my original point, anyway...cause I'm pretty stubborn like that. :) You won't ever hear me telling you that I'm sorry things aren't going your way. I reserve my apologies for the moments when I feel guilty inside and feel the need to repent with utmost sincerity. If I throw my apologies around at every bad thing that happens in life to you, how are you going to know when I'm truly sorry, or when it's just an automatic conversation piece?
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